I think it's safe to say that our generation is proper addicted to social media. Social media holds many amazing possibilities and opportunities but just as well can ruin your day, your mood and your sense of self-worth.
Recently I started thinking about my own social media habits and realized that I am responsible for whatever comes up in my feed or even who I decide to stalk. Shocker, I know. But I think we sometimes forget that we can decide who and what we let into our lives not just IRL but online too. As someone who is not afraid to cut people out of my life when the negative vibes they produce outweigh the positive ones I started to wonder why I wasn't that radical and consequent online. I still haven't found the answer to that but I made a decision to change my social media habits for good.
Just for example I stopped stalking. Everyone will tell you that no good comes from stalking your ex and you know it too so why would you stalk ex-friends or people from high school that you never really liked? It's the same concept. I think it's quite addictive to stay up to date with what the people you don't like are up to but in the end it will only provoke anger. I used to stalk a friend that I had a fall out with on a regular basis, even though I was disgusted at how this person was acting online, leaving mean comments and the works. This was just a reflection of what kind of person this once friend was in real life and it made me sick looking at this egocentric person filled with hate and jelousy. So why did I kept on stalking her in my free time, when I could have filled my spare minutes with pictures of puppies etc. ?
The world is already confronting us with negativity on a daily basis and reading the news makes me angry and frustrated enough so why would I actively create a space online, that belongs to me but doesn't reflect the things that I want to attract and invite into my life? There is no logical reason! Also I don't want to be that person who makes fun of people and spends every free minute gossiping and putting others down in order to feel better about myself. There are far more important things to discuss right now.
So I started unfollowing and blocking mercilessly and resisted the urge to stalk. I've done this for a few months now and I feel so much better and do not miss it a bit. Most importantly I do not feel drained and frustrated everytime I go on Instagram but rather inspired to be and do better. The time I wasted on getting all worked up about what people I don't like posted on Instagram etc. I will never get back and I'm far from wasting any more of my precious time. What the eye does not see the heart can not grieve over, and this is something we all have to and should do for ourselves.
xx Laura
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